Learn To Kiss Like A Pro

Learn to Kiss Like a Pro!

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Be prepared to give your partner their best thrill ever with your best casual kiss. "Casual" in your case means plenty of preparation before hand so you don't have to worry and can concentrate on making it look casual. If you prepare for it correctly, nature is on your side and will cause an explosion of head-spinning brain chemicals to instantly surge through your partner. With the appropriate pre-planning, correct environment and body language you are bound to succeed with your "casual" kiss and make it turn out fantastic! Kissing is a physical activity that affects both the old brain limbic system and the new brain cerebral cortex. The old brain is where heart rate, breathing, perspiration and many other bodily functions are controlled. Most of these functions are devoted to survival and sex. This old brain center is revved-up by a kiss and starts both conscious and unconscious preparations for the body to have sex. (Unless this is a goodbye kiss tossed by a relative!) A kiss most likely causes the female new brain cognitive centers to think about the romantic beauty of the moment and significance of the relationship at this point. The male new brain is most likely thinking about how good the female would look and feel naked!

How to prepare for the "casual" sweet kiss

A healthy, clean body is very stimulating and that requires careful and serious on-going maintenance. No junk food, no cigarettes and plenty of good drinking water daily are essential for a good tasting mouth for both you and your partner. Of course dental hygiene (flossing, brushing and dentist visits) is important, as well as skin and hair care to ensure stimulation for the eyes and nose, too.

What the woman wants.

The female brain and body are turned-on by a beautiful environment and close relationship. Romance over a period of time is a very important part of the preparation for the perfect kiss. The proper romantic lead-in to that moment of contact fills her hormone tanks to the brim. When the actual kiss does come, all her hormone tanks pour powerful brain chemicals into her blood stream. These chemicals trigger huge changes in all areas of her body preparing her for her biological destiny. It is only her new brain cerebral cortex with its power of rational thought that keeps her passion under control SilveeWebsiteStories/th_kissing.gif

Body Language Helps Make the Kiss Happen

Most often the kiss is done without any negotiation or discussion on the subject ahead of time. If you have to discuss how to do it, then it is research and not for fun. Nearly all the communication is done with body language. Also there may be a question as to who should initiate the kiss and that depends on the culture, training and beliefs of the partners involved. In most situations the man is the pursuer and the woman is watching him carefully while deciding to allow or stop his advances into her space and/or body. The most important preparation for initiating the kiss is to get in position. That means, be facing closer than normal while looking into your partner's eyes. Start the move with a soft, caring look on your face, then touch hands or hug upper body and watch for a receptive response. This is especially important: Watch your partner carefully for mirroring moves that match yours. If he or she is moving away, FORGET IT for now. But if all seems welcome, move your face slowly forward and look softly into your partner's eyes. You are projecting your caring image deep into her brain and that triggers numerous bonding and breeding chemicals from the old brain. As you slowly (and romantically) move in, aim your lips for his or her lips, with a little head turn to avoid a nose crash. Close your eyes before your lips meet (this is an art form) and relax your body. (Soft bodies feel really nice!) Soft, sensual lip texture is important, so relax them and let them slide a little. You may even nibble on your partner's lips, but don't get too wet and slobbery. The first kiss is really a test run to see if it is going to be fun and if more kissing is welcome. With a little practice (a lot of practice is more fun!) you may enjoy spending longer periods exploring your partner's mouth and face, or even other soft body parts. (Ear lobes are a delicacy but watch out for the hardware.) Touching or caressing your partner's head, hair and back is a nice bonus for you both. More later. The brain chemicals by now have greatly increased the sensitivity in all parts of your bodies. Just about any touching feels really good but watch for signs of welcome first.

What Follows the Kissing?

Kissing for females is not only great fun for the body but also it stimulates the mind with an increased feeling of emotional and physical closeness. For women, kissing good-feelings start in the upper body and work down more slowly than in men's bodies. For most women, kissing is the most stimulating physical activity short of intercourse. Not only does it feel really good but also it is relationship building for the woman -- a most important factor before giving in to the man for sex. In the mean time, most man are still thinking about how great she would look and feel naked. To most men, kissing is upper persuasion for a lower invasion. How far a couple goes with the physical contact leading to naked sex is normally left for the woman to decide. It has been humorously said that men only have enough blood in their body to operate one head at a time! Men don't make wise long-term decisions during such times.

During passionate kissing, common sense and long term planning often appears to be absent. Our physical bodies were designed over millions of years to be effective breeding machines. When they are revved up with passionate kissing they are very difficult to slow down or stop short of actual sexual release. There is a fine line between a woman's consent and rape that has gotten some men into big trouble. Local rules within cultures vary and should be followed by the new brain to avoid disastrous results when the hormones are running amuck in the old brain.